What is Love? The Triangular Theory of Love

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What is Love?

Love is one of the most spoken and least understood words in our daily vocabulary. Love is commonly equated with sensual enjoyment. The suffering of the stomach hungry for food is well-recognized, but the agony of the heart hungry for love is often overlooked.

Fact is LOVE can’t be Defined. But it was explained:

Love is a special and complicated emotion which is quite difficult to understand. Although most people believe that love revolves around the heart, it actually occurs in the brain. Artists, poets and painters all epitomize the heart as the love symbol, but it’s the brain that generates chemical signals to make people understand love. There are different forms and styles of expressing love.

In fact, the Bible says “God is Love.” Love is one of the primary characteristics of God. 

Love in Islam is all-encompassing, comprehensive and sublime, rather than being restricted to one form only, which is love between a man and a woman. Rather, there are more comprehensive, wider and sublime meanings.
Bhagavad Gita (2.13)– its hidden message of love:

We are all souls, spiritual beings, entitled to rejoice in eternal love with the supremely lovable and loving God. When our loving nature is contaminated by selfishness, we start loving things more than persons.

According to science, Love is a Genetic base chemical reactions that happens in the Harmon’s of the human body.

Psychology and the Triangular Theory of Love

Psychology continues to struggle with the question of how to define love, and after decades of research, is no closer to the ultimate answer. However, the triangular theory of love proposed by University of Wyoming Robert Sternberg provides a fascinating and useful framework. The triangle here is not a true “love triangle,” but instead is the shape used to represent love’s three main dimensions.

It’s easiest to understand the theory by looking at this figure.  Each point of the triangle represents the extreme of one of the dimensions of love. 

The Three Building Blocks of Love


At the top of the triangle is the extreme of intimacy, which is the extent to which your relationship is characterized by feelings of closeness, connectedness, and strong emotional bonds. 


Finally, passion reflects the intensity of your sexual desire toward your partner.  This desire may take the form of romantic attachment as well as strong sexual attraction and a desire to be with your partner. 


The commitment pole reflects your decision to stay in the relationship. People who are strongly committed to their relationship make a vow to stay in that relationship through thick and thin, and therefore are willing to work hard to keep it going even if the thin outweighs the thick.

Psychologists may still not have the ultimate definition of love, but the framework provided by triangle theory can give you a practical tool to maximize the fulfilling you receive out of your closest ties.

Sternberg came up with a triangular model where the three love components take the vertices of the triangle. The three love components interacts with each other to generate seven distinct kinds of love.

Try to feel the Magic of Love.

Love is You, Love is Me, Love is Us.


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